Sorry man..If you,or ANY of you ever want to talk,PLEASE! Message me,and I will give you my number.It was the hardest thing I have ever endured. In fact, it damn near killed me.The loneliness, not knowing what to do with yourself, or routine. I personally damn near drank myself to death,No where to live,went nuts for years,and as many know,moved to CA.How fukn nuts is that?! Seriously,don't hesitate to reach out,its a hard rough road for some.I had to figure out wtf to do after 30 yrs.I learned,it was me,and myself,and 3 dogs and the world.Stay up!!! No matter what comes! It will get better!
You know, you guys are some of the biggest, dumbest assholes ever, and also sometimes solid gold. Remember this when you're cheering for your 'team', that we're all struggling with the same crap. Never ceases to amaze me the level of heart I see on the beeb...and also random knowledge.
A shovel and a bag of lime along with a long drive into the forest is cheaper. Leave your cell phone at home.
Couples have been sleeping in the same bed for a very long time, I guarantee you my grandparents slept together in the same bed. Before central heating, it wasn't unusual for the kids to join them too so everyone could stay warm. No doubt you got the idea that couples slept in separate beds from watching movies and TV shows where they showed them sleeping in separate beds due to morality concerns. That nonsense is what changed in the 60s, not actual sleeping habits.
My parents slept in separate beds as far back as I can remember as a wee lad. I remember having to sneak past my Dad’s bed when I had a nightmare and went to seek comfort with Mom. Then when my sister moved out after high school for college Mom moved into her room.
All this time alone, I have nothing to do but swim around in my own head. It can get pretty dark. But I've realized this is more about her than me. Every pathetic attempt to explain what drove her away, even if she was apologetic at the time, was yet another attempt to hide what's wrong with her by shifting the blame to my real or perceived flaws. It was kind of an "I'm sorry you feel that way" type of fake apology. I'm acknowledging to myself that I deserve better and am better than what she's made me out to be. If nothing else I'll move forward being well aware of my value and more demanding of respect from anyone I'm involved with.
Im still coparenting with a narcissist so Im not free for a while. But Id be dead otherwise so there is that.
I have the same situation as you with the narcissist, but I very rarely encounter her in any circumstance as he's gotten older, and I've NEVER "Co-parented". I'm not contributing or going along with her bullshit in any way. And guess what? It works! He's NOTHING like her and he sees all the dumb shit for what it is.
Fuck that shit...for what? Fortunately, mine wants nothing to do with court, that costs money..and she's cheap.
What a drag that she can't grasp the simple concept of the only people getting any benefit from that are the lawyers.
Despite the way things went down, we make it a point to make the kids a priority. I had a rule, keep it professional. And honestly it served me much better than taking everything personally. I lived by the decree and anything outside of that, if it was better for the kids, then that's what we did. It's not too often that we don't speak daily for something and that's the best way to manage it for them. I hate the Co-parenting crap. That's the dumbest thing I have ever heard. You had a kid, you are a parent.