Nah, I mean if she croaks before the divorce is final Imma be left with more financial grief than I will from the divorce.
All I'll say is . . . when you've had enough, you'll know. I was the one who filed for divorce. I wasn't gonna live miserable or within a toxic relationship. Thats not the environment that I wanted for my kids.
Narc victims do have this thing called "trauma bonding" where you don't have any concept its time for you to split. Your therapist can think clearly for you when you cant.
Ive come to the realization that men are in it for the long haul and take their vows of marriage to heart. Women, not so much, theyre in the moment, until something better comes along, or they get bored, or look a butterfly and theyre off.
When I went through it. I fell on the sword. I apologized for my flaws. I knew she was a bog part of it but left that part alone. All I could do was recognize my flaws, learn from it. And move on. At that point there is no more reason to blame. Just accept your part and move on. I wanted to repair it so bad at the time. That was 2021. Now, 3 years later I would never go back to her. Even have a son with her. She has realized how bad it is being single. I am happily with someone else and life is good. I laugh at myself for how long I put up with the bullshit. There is someone else out there for you.
I'm sitting here in this shitty race trailer in the high desert, wishing I had an nice home-made hamburger, talking to my wife back in NC. I take a sip of root beer, read your post, and that shit goes straight out my nose.
Damn! https://www.facebook.com/100062756751583/posts/999952635439952/?mibextid=rS40aB7S9Ucbxw6v In case link no worky:
Ok, I need to vent here.- ex is refusing to pay her half of my daughters club lacrosse fees this year and my son's needed dental surgery. Yet she and her new just came back from vaca in Mexico and she has $1M in the bank from a family death settlement. It's not a huge amount but $3400 means a lot more to me than it does to her. Did i mention she's a physician and makes 50% more than I do.
Welp, fuck me, I just celebrated my 20th wedding anniversary and everything is still fine. Add a few more years of being together and we’re actually closer to 30 years than 20 years together.
My 20th is in a couple of months. She got a good one. Kidding aside, she's far and away the best thing ever happened to me.