Would you tell one of your best friends...

No.

She's an adult and as long as she is doing it of her own free will, it none of your business. Its between her and her parents.

If she was doing heroin then I would definitely tell the dad. At the end of the day, this is just sex. Lets not be so uptight people.

 

This was asked earlier and I didn't see a reply yet. So are we talking just her sitting in her room on a cam diddling her bits while a bunch of 400 lb fat guys are sending her bitcoins from across the internet or are we talking a proper porn shoot with other actors and such?

Please clarify

 

I don't know why it would be such a bombshell to find out your daughter does porn.. I mean it seems a lucrative profession, earning $3k-$5k per day, last casting I saw.

 

Porn and actors....that's funny.

 

Who knew they paid that much for bottoms in gay porn.

 

It's just a job. Let the girl tell her dad in her own good time. It's not like she became an attorney or something.

 

Pictures made her dirty, movies far from clean
Did the things she thought she'd never do
Stepping-stones to glory and that spiral down to hell
Cover up the wounds, they won't come clean

Electrified, enough money buys
Too many bills and it's time to kill

 

In my mind it's not about what she's actually doing. It could be drugs or she could be climbing trees. But everyone is being some scared Nancy and seems like they're just talking shit behind the guys back. Whole town murmuring. Tell him and let him deal with it. That's the right thing to do regardless of what the actual thing she's doing.

 

Performers?......perfornicators?

 

I don't know, Chip. I gotta call BS on that notion. Kids (assuming she is a "kid" as in 18,19, 29... and not 30 year old who's seen a little of life) don't understand that their actions have consequences. Legal? Sure. But the right to free space does not come without consequences to what you so - or in this case, do.

As a dad of a girl, I'd want to know.

Dits, if your friend is an upstanding member of society, or has a career that is influencedby public opinion (lawyer, doctor, law enforcement, politician) he's going to want to get the "news" under wraps and conceal/spin it best he can. Regardless of your opinion on porn, these situations do have negative connotations in most workplace situations.

If he's a GOOD friend, someone you and your families regularly hang out with, I'd tell him. Especially if you've known the girl most her life. Deal with his reaction as it comes.

I've got a couple close friends that have abrasive personalities, and also have daughters. If I knew and knew they didn't know, I'd tell them, knowing that whatever their reaction wouldn't be directed at me.

If it's an acquaintance, or a casual work friend then no, probably not.

 

Like father, like daughter?

Sorry.

What he said

 

BTW, while I'm all for porn, I'd seriously try to right that ship if it was someone close to me who I knew. The money is enticing but you can search through Youtube and find videos done by the likes of Bree Olson and Belle Knox (among others) how their lives are ruined now as a result of it (even though they have a nice wad of cash in their bank accounts).

 

I guess you could always pay a college aged kid to drop by their house with a used condom, have them hand it to him and say she left this at work.

 

Tasteless joke, I apologize.
In all seriousness I don't think I would do it, especially if it was just because everyone else nominated me to do it because they didn't want to.

 

Who's to say that their lives wouldn't have turned out the same regardless. Plenty of messed up / unsatisfied / unhappy peeps in the world who never did any porn. I question the cause and effect. In the end seems like a consciences decision made by most so hard to place blame towards any of it.

 

It would depend on the friend. The first thing I'd say his HOW I found out. By word of mouth not by him even leaving it to wonder if I had seen it.

 

Oh and a porn with her boyfriend who put it out there is one thing, can happen to anyone. A production porn..... That's a different story and should be handled differently

 

Tell the daughter word is out and she can tell daddy or take her chances on who will

 

I'm sure she knows.

 

I'd probably say something, in a public place with no alcohol involved. If he's that kind of attitude he may end up in jail if someone he doesn't like clues him in on the subject. At least now he has a fighting chance of dealing with it if he doesn't know.