Would you tell one of your best friends...

No need to lie.
If Dits decides it's not his place to pass on this information, he is free to tell the guy that if it ever comes up.

"Yes, I heard the rumor, but I don't pass on rumors, and I wasn't going to look into it any further."

 

They don't. That's for the top who can listen to some idiot director critique his technique for 8-10 hours, endure 10 or 20 retakes while the cameraman tries to get the right camera angle, and still perform.

 

Actually, that is a reasonable response.

 

I heard the neighbors are all trying to decide who's going to tell your parents that you're a lawyer

 

How many 18-25 year olds have messed up their lives with this internet thing. It's never unseen and hard to get rid of... much like the clap

Or there is the other side and she becomes famous like the Kardashian hoes or Paris I'm not paying for my ad Hilton

 

This makes more sense here...

 

Soo many ways to go on this.Soo many variables.Damned if you do,damned if you don't.
Maybe he already knows?Maybe shes been circling the drain for quite sometime,and
he wont be surprised?
Who the hell knows? Glad I don't have any friends with hot daughters banging online?
Your buddy is gonna be fucked up in the head no matter how he finds out.
This was his little girl,raised by him,diaper changes,all that emotional child raising memories
and shit.
I could give better advice on this.if you could provide a link,or maybe Mongo will let us link
video that could possibly be her,and you tell us yes or no???
I'm just trying to help

 

If I lived in Chicago, I'd 100% agree with you. Living in the town that I do of maybe 15,000 in the whole friggin county, it's a different situation.

100% agree that it's the daughter's decision and that's the end of it. I'm not considering outing her or telling the dad so he can play hero, go rescue her, and let her marry a nice church boy. F that noise. If she's happy, let her be.

Small town people can be downright cruel. Despite the ideas everyone has about growing up in a small town, with small town values and all that, there's a pretty bad dark side. My motivation for telling him would simply be so he could prepare himself for the eventual backlash from the community.

 

+1, especially that part.

 

This x100. Dad will never be able to make the decision for her. Maybe he can help if she's in a tough spot. Maybe she just enjoys it. Who cares. Either way, he needs to know for his own sake so he's not put in a bad spot publicly.

 

Everyone love gossip, especially if the subject is someone they perceive as having a "high hat" attitude. Trust me, there's someone out there who is just chomping at the bit to disclose this, though at a more "opportune" time and to an audience that will have the proper level of "disapproval". If your buddy was any kind of tormentor back in his school days, you can bet that the one(s) on the receiving end already know about this and are counting the days to the next reunion to pass out postcards of her "highlights". They're just hoping no one else beats them to the punch.

 

My boy is one of the biggest male stars in the industry.... I wonder if he's bonked her...

 

If it's "just sex," why would you want to know?

 

So SamG is being overpaid.

 

While I don't disagree, the person who gave him the information is a "trust w/my life" type of friend, which tells me Dits does not believe this to be a rumor.

I don't lie or cover things up with friends or family (to me they are one in the same). I believe Dits is probably the same way, which would make lying to a friend painful for him.

Let's say your significant other is cheating on you and your good/best friends knew but stayed out of it. If you find out later your friends knew, what would that do to your relationship with them? While this comparison is not an apples to apples scenario, the end result is the same. Your friends knew and didn't say do/anything.

 

They would not be considered friends.

 

Tell it to the daughter then... If you must.

 

If she's a pro doing pro porn shoots, then she's an over 18 adult able and legally responsible for her own decisions.

That being said, if she's in that industry, that's by choice. It's HER responsibility and HER decision to communicate this choice with her family. Not yours as her Dad's friend.
Friends don't get involved in a Family's business. Friends just make themselves available with a sympathetic ear and support when the situation calls for it.

If an Ex posted the video and you are aware of it. If you have her contact information, again..SHE needs to know about it. You tell her...not her Dad. Then, SHE can
go back to her family and they can deal with it in their own way.

 

If it's "just sex" and "just a job", then why are all of you saying it's only HER business what she does?

What if she was a cashier and dits bumped into her at Lowes? Wouldn't he be inclined at the next social event while sharing a beverage with her father to say, " oh hey I didn't know Sarah was working over at lowes now, good for her, they grow up so fast" ?

So why if it's such a small deal, and should have no negative connotations, are most of you saying to keep it to himself and not mention? Like its something shameful to be ignored?

It doesn't go both ways.