Divorce help - God Damn Epidemic

No, spending all your money on hookers and cocaine is not a healthy or productive way to cope with a divorce. Substance abuse and engaging in illegal or dangerous activities can have serious negative consequences for your physical and mental health, as well as your financial well-being.

It's important to find healthy and positive ways to cope with the emotions and stress of a divorce. This may include seeking support from friends and family, engaging in self-care activities, or seeking professional help from a therapist or counselor.

If you are struggling with substance abuse or other harmful behaviors, it is important to seek help and support to address these issues. There are many resources available, including addiction treatment centers, support groups, and mental health professionals.

 

Please ban @motion

 

Yeah hes no fun anymore!

 

Evidently his next side hustle, that is indeed very financially rewarding, is as a mega church minister....

 

What is wrong with you?

 

He got Turingettes Syndrome.

 

Clearly ChatGPT

 

Anyone familiar with the process to adjust child support?

Salient details:
Divorce was completed with a property settlement that detailed child support, and the below;
Kids are with each parent 50/50.
I pay all insurance for the kids (health, dental, vision)
Medical Bills are 75/25 with me paying the 75.
Extracurriculars are 50/50 (scouts, sports, instruments etc)


Alimony is done.
I have been paying ~700/month
X started real estate almost 2 years ago, had a good first year and 2022 was very good, good to the point where she made more than me.

Obviously it makes no sense for me to be paying her when she makes more than me and the kids are 50/50, not to mention Im paying insurance. My states support calculator has her now paying me (based on my estimates of her income). Im not looking for $, I just want to stop paying, and maybe get medical bills to 50/50.

How difficult is the process. How likely am I to get a favorable outcome? The lawyer I used for the divorce has taken a sabbatical, and rates are looking like $350/hr, so I want to confirm the trade off value before dumping $$.

 

You have a penis. Therefore you are wrong.

 

Perhaps a call to 3-6-2-4-3-6. Rumor has it, you can call anytime.

 

Perhaps a consultation with an attorney is best at this point. See what your options and likely outcomes are, and what it will cost.

 

I can only attest to what happens in MN, so take that FWIW.

When the child support order gets issued, the order is static for two years unless a dramatic change of circumstances occurs.

After two years, support is automatically given a COLA, and either party is free to bring an action to have the support issue revisited with current information.

It was two years, February 18th.

Someone will be back in front of the child support magistrate soon to explain a few things…

Check your county’s court website, there is probably a self-help department, and possibly some staff that can explain the processes and procedures. They can’t give legal advice, but they can tell you the steps to take if you’re self-representing (and here, most CS revisits are pro se).

 

Billy Ethridge would disagree

 

Dramatic is an understatement in my case, when we divorced her taxible income was negative ~$900, in 2022 she cleared between 150 and 180K. At this point I ask...

 

My precious ex had a 33% increase in her salary in the 9 months between the time she filed for her second bankruptcy and when I got her on the stand under oath.

Makes you wonder, don’t it?

 

Sounds like you were holding her back.

 

CS is mainly done via a predetermined formula (worksheet) that you just plug in the numbers and it spits out a number for custodial/non-custodial.

You can complete it on your own, have her sign and you sign, file it with the clerk and be done. If she fights, then you’ll have to get the attorneys involved. My suggestion is that if she seems reluctant to agree, just ask your attorney or his office for a recommendation. You are permitted to ask for a copy of the W2 to verify her interrogatory.

I have been through the process a few times and luckily my ex and I work through it well.

I look at it as not paying her but enriching the kids’ lives. It’s money I would have spent on the regardless but I understand your situation.

good luck

 

This is ultimately the best tactic to take. Thank God I'll never be divorced, but when my dad passed away about 15 years ago I was emotionally at my lowest I've probably ever felt. I quickly realized I had to take that negative energy and do something with it. Within 3 months I had used it to get myself into the best physical shape I'd been in up to that time. Going the constructive route versus the destructive one is for sure the best bet....especially in a divorce. The best way to stick it to your ex is to make let them see from a distance how much better you are doing without them. If instead they see you turning to a dark place that's just going to solidify in their minds that you're a loser/degenerate.