Divorce help - God Damn Epidemic

Whoever laid that floor needs a beating

 

As if you're looking at the floor @beac83

 

That guy wasn't my type.

That horrible floor job got a lot more of my attention. Even the vacuum cleaner got more attention.

 

It’s the divorce thread.


I was confused of that was a vacuum cleaner.

 

Vacuum cleaners as gifts can certainly lead to divorce. See the vid in the video thread.

 

I like this. My first marriage (16 together 8 married) we got together in college and were really good at being individuals in a couple - people envied it and told us so. But by failing to prioritize that "third" person as you say, we just made two really awesome people ready for their next partners. I'm glad she had the balls to do something about it rather than just accept it as I had been doing.

In general catching up the past 15 pages...I really feel for all the people having/had contentious divorces and doubly so for every kid involved.

 

i just want to make sure i'm not misinterpreting...

1) you didn't notice $40k slowly disappearing in regular increments from a joint account over the course of 2+ years?
2) you didn't know where the money to pay mortgage on a joint asset (her empty house) was coming from?

 

That's interesting, because I've always had the belief (and this is just my opinion, don't take it personal) that couples who have separate accounts aren't in a true relationship. Like I said, just a weird belief I have.

 

I just find it odd. It makes it seem like they're trying to sneak something by.

 

You are entitled to your weird beliefs. When the blonde woman and I got married, we agreed to set up our finances, both for expenses and savings, based on percentage of our total income. I made roughly double what she did so I paid in twice as much. We had to agree on expenditures from the joint money, but each of us had our own small amount to use for what we wanted. It was part of the 2 becoming 3 thing. We could each buy stuff we wanted or needed (if you want it, you must need it) of gifts for the other without disclosing the cost.

 

You still each have your own clothes if you share a closet. Well, I hope…

 

You guys get a closet?

 

Damn you. Where is the mind bleach.

 

The stepped out for a bit.

 

That still doesn't work as an analogy. If the balance in your account to zero, money isn't suddenly going to appear in there from hers. However, try leaving a shelf empty for a couple of weeks and see what happens.

 

Oh there's definitely a downside to my joint account life. We've gone the spectrum of me making twice as much as her and vice versus, so that's never been an issue. My problem is that I'm a spender and she's a miser (every marriage needs one). Between all of my hobbies I could spend thousands a month. Just last month I wanted to buy a motorcycle (well, another one). I keep a little kitty of cash hidden away from when I sell parts etc. The one rule we have is that if I sell bike stuff, it goes towards other bike stuff. I'm $1000 short of what this bike cost, plus I'm going to sell another bike which will net us $2K over what I'm getting this bike for, so what's the big deal.

Well you would have thought I was asking to make the Louisiana Purchase. "Oh my god, do you really need to spend $1000!" Keep in mind we have no house or car payments and she was just given a big 6 figure severance package from work. It gets old but if I was left to my druthers, I probably wouldn't have a pot to piss in. But I'd have lots of cool toys