Another GF/Wife breakup/divorce

two things...

1) one of my friends back in high school's dad had that exact situation. met a chick online in the 90's (think AOL video chatroom)... ex-husband moved her from Denver to DC to come live with my homie's dad. shit you not that fuckin sucka ass...

2) i had an ex-girlfriend with a 10 year old that fell in love with me once upon a time (and the only time i've ever dated a chick with a kid). she broke up with me, then wanted me to still come chill with her daughter and hang out with her like it was no big deal, cause she loved me and would miss me and we could still be buddies. told her to fucking kill herself. the entitlement is real brosef...

 

Let her sit in the driveway. Make sure the half dozen ladies doing the walk of shame greet her on their way out.

 

Do this via text. Worked pretty good when I did it years ago with a crazy stalker ex. Probably best if you know she lives up a floor or two.

You: hey.. Are you at home?

Her: yes, what's up?

You: I miss you. Come to the window

Her: OK.. I'm here

You: Jump out

 

This. Even if you just pay some escorts to hang out and drink your booze for the night. Just so that she sees them walking out

 

I think she is testing you to see if she will have a place to come back to when this new relaionship blows up in her face. If she gets the "yes dear" to the truck borrowing and waiting in the driveway (and anything else)...she knows you will take her back when this fling doesnt work out. I feel she is using you

Good luck man

 

So much this

 

If you like and get along with the boy, why doesn't she drop him off.

No need to have her around, yet you can still maintain contact (if you choose) with him.

What Potts & Pans said resonates. She's testing waters on how far she can push you, in my opinion.

Some good responses:
1) No, you can't use my truck. You can rent one at U-Haul or Budget or Ryder.
2) No, you can't park in my driveway, your son, however, is welcome to wait at my house for the bus without you anywhere near by.
3) No, I'm sorry, but I'm not going to be ok helping / comply / assist you with X, Y, Z.
4) You have ## of days in which to make arrangements to get your things out of my house and coordinate with me(*). If I don't hear from you, I'm going to put them into storage, which I'll pay for for a month, so you can deal with it then. I just need them out, so we can both move on. New dude is NOT welcome anywhere near your house

No need to be rude, or angry, but be firm where your boundaries are since her going with the other dude.

* It sounds like it's not contentious so far, but I wouldn't want her moving stuff out of my house without me present to see what's going out. I've heard too many horror stories.

Sorry man, such a bummer.

 

If so, then be as accommodating and helpful as possible. Then, when she comes back thinking she's got a sure thing, laugh in her face as you close the door.

 

Right on point there....

When she asked me about sitting in the driveway, i didn't answer her yes or no, but told her how fucked up she is making things on the son.
So that was about then end of that convo.

I took today off because I got a plan for her stuff....Im usually out of the house at 5am, i set my alarm for 530. I kept all lights off to see if she showed up for the bus. Didn't see her. After she drops him off i guess, she texts, 'u up?' I didn't respond because i didn't want her stopping by. Im sure she drove by because my houuse is in direct rouute to the school.

She calls, I ask what she's doing about her stuff. Says friday. Today she's going to louisville. So i come back with the 'so going to louisville to be with dude is more important than all your stuff?. silence.

"you get address changed yet?"... her reply, 'not yet'. I mean shit, she's had 4 days and more really since you can do it online.

"I changed the locks'....her reply, ' i figured that'.

I said ok, have fun, i might get my numbers changed. and hung up. No more contact since.

She's not a crazy, trouble seeking girl...she is a gamer and player for sure.

I didn't think about the enclosed trailer to store shit. I'm loading up and taking alot of stuff to the dump. There are mattresses in the trailer now from when i bought new ones. Then im putting her stuff in the trailer. Damn, can't believe you guys didn't think about the trailer lst.

 

Yeah, nobody mentioned it because it's a dumb idea...

Get her shit off site and outta your hands.

Forward is this way -------->... Keep your eyes pointed that direction.

 

Stupid said it. ^^

Get her shit into a different zip code

 

Damn Sorry Gary...... But hey a break up is better than a Divorce! Enjoy your free time Man! Don't look back...

 

Use the trailer to transport her shit to a storage facility asap. That is already spending more effort on it than she deserves, but it will prevent her from coming to your house anymore and also keep you from becoming the chump who helps her move it into a new place.

 

Sounds like she's gaming. Perfect opportunity to give her a Dirty Sanchez then kick her to the curb.

 

Save the gas money to the dump and light a fire under her ass by putting it outside and telling her at 7PM tonight you're posting it to "free stuff" on Craigslist. You'd be amazed what a little sense of urgency can do in these situations.

 

"FREE WHORE FURNITURE"

 

Damn it. Guess ill take another day off to make sure i take it to a storage. Pfft...maybe the rest of the week. Already a short week.

I was planning on going furniture shopping, redecorating, painting and now is a good time to do some top to bottom cleaning since a few of the rooms are empty now. They occupied 80% of the space here, so i have a lot of filling in to do.

The bikes might have a climate controlled storage in the house this winter, since they stay in a detached garage with just a woodburner stove.

 

Brother...you are making the mistake we have all made...stop trying to be a 'good guy' about this and stop feeling bad about not being a 'good guy.' You were a good dude and she shit on your face. If you continue to be a supportive guy about this, she will continue to use the comfort you provide while out getting that exciting new cock. She will rationalize her cheating, her disloyal and abhorrent behavior, to the end of the earth while taking complete advantage of you. Put her shit in storage and cut all ties NOW, with the kid too, sorry. She made her choice. She now has to live with that decision and every aspect that it affects. It's not your responsibility to do anything for her or her son, ever again.

Expect that the firmer you are with this and the more boundaries you set, that she will come back and try to get some again. Nothing is more attractive to a woman that a man that doesn't need her...don't fall for that classic trap when she inevitably throws it out there...then is 'accidentally' pregnant. These are of course stereotypes and they exist for a reason.

Time to become a dark chapter in a series of young women's lives, Sir. Get to work.