1) Decide what is more important to you. Racing/Her 2) Discuss things with her calmly. Try to convince her. If she doesn't see it your way refer to #1 and act accordingly. If you lean towards bike/racing then figure if you can afford it after "court costs"...
buy the bike, get your gear... buy her some flowers n shiny stuff n say something sweet... might distract her lol
Depends on why she doesn't want you to race... If it's because of safety issues, you're fucked. If it's the financial reason, find a little side business that finances your racing? (of course she will probably bitch about you spending too much time on said business.) Either way you're fucked
I'm a dick so I'd just calmly tell her its not up for discussion and there's the door if you don't like it. If we really couldn't afford it she may have a point but if its just cause she doesn't like it then adios.
I'm a punk, but I will try anyway. If you have no other vises, you have a chance. If, on the other hand, you have regular party buds or have another "annoying" hobby (to her), you may be SOL. See, she don't want you to be unhappy in your life (well, most likely). A tough guy flatbiller like you has gots to have an "outlet" too. ONE outlet. You must take baby steps my good fellow. Don't shoot your wad in 30 seconds, they generally don't like that. Talk. Tell her about your modest goals and the great benefits earned from such a small investment. This is a PROCESS. If you need more information, buy my book. If not, I'd recommend consulting the law firm that represents only men: Bender, Hoover and Focker.
8000 posts and your just now wondering how to get a bike?? just buy the bike and stick it in the garage.. when she sees it you can tell her you've had it for weeks.. easier to ask for forgiveness than permission
Grab a couple glasses of wine and sit down and talk it over. If her points are justified (finances, health, etc.) then you owe it the both of you to step away until you are more financially stable or your health has improved. However a significant part of me feels as though you already know the answers.
Right now, step one should be make sure she doesn't read the BBS. Honestly though, I would go at it with a gradual strategy. Ease her into it.