Divorce help - God Damn Epidemic

....and this was probably mentioned at some point in the thread here but try to make ALL of your communications with them via txt of some sort (phone txts, emails etc) and keep copies backed up of all of it. If you can avoid voice calling as much as you can or if its possible to record the calls, but I think to do that you need to inform them at the start of the call that its being recorded (which might cause them to put their guard up and not speak as genuinely as they might otherwise)....if its in text they pretty much implied that it's written in ink not pencil so to speak.

this will let you have a full paper trail of all their BS to present to your lawyer.

 

Even my six-year-old daughter knows that when I drop her off at Mom‘s after a weekend together, it is better if she goes inside without me escorting her. The less talking, the better.

 

In case she sees anything Im going mum. I told her yesterday, after reading her the riot act (found out he has been staying over here even though she spends half the week with him 70 miles away, she has him here with my kids, in the house I pay for ,when Im away), I looked in her eyes, the eyes I had been in love with since I was 12. I dont love her anymore, dont like or respect her. Im doing awesome, every day better than the last, I no longer have a hole in my chest, everything is still tough, but, making new friends, reconnecting with old ones, having fun, back in shape, ran a 5k recently, placed 3rd in my age group, pushed it further and ran 10k (not at an event, just on my own) at an even faster pace than my 5k. Tried out flirting for the first time in 14 years, turns out Im not so bad at it.

 

Now go read your messages from 2 months ago....

 

This. Exactly.

 

yea, I stopped short of saying it, yall were right all along.

 

Reread this today. Good advice, true thoughts. Thanks.

 

We have come to terms on $. She continues to have him in the house with the kids, so Im peacing out. Found a nice home not far away so I can still take the kids to school. My 6 and 3 year old act more mature and adult than those two anal glands. This weekend she *promised to have the kids ready for church, so when I showed up Sunday we could go, and I could get back for my 5k race.
Nope, and butt munch was here, I called him out.
"WTF, why are you in my house!?"
"Umm I got here early"
"Bullshit, your truck hasnt moved since Friday"
Lowers his head and avoids eye contact "Sorry"
"Dont you sorry me you pice of shit, Im not your fucking father! Get your shit and get the fuck out!"

Seriously what the fuck. Guys got some balls though, they ordered a cord of wood and he texted me... "Wood will be delivered Tuesday, do you mind stacking?" "Yes I do mind, fuck you."
Im taking the axes too.

 

i don't mean to be amused by your cluster fuck... but the paint ain't even dried on this relationship change for her yet and new dude is already lazy enough that he's asking YOU to help do chores while he fucks your ex-wife in your house haha. if its already that, something tells me the rosey glasses will wear off for her after not too long, and maybe that means nothing for you and it shouldn't cause its not your problem, but that part of it is amusing to me.

i feel like you see that often... somebody steps out on their relationship because its fun and new and exciting and a fantasy and it breaks from their norm/hum-drum routine life, or what have you... then they get a year in and reality sets in and they realize that there's still all the same drama and daily stresses and responsibilities and arguments about life shit just like there was before, and the shine wears off. everything's all fun and games when you don't ACTUALLY have to care about any other facet of a person's life besides casually fucking and getting drinks. when you got whiny kids and bills and chauffeuring and chores, that changes real quick. taking things for granted is a mother fucker... but again, no longer your concern. i just enjoy seeing people go thru the motions on some level is all, maybe you can take some solace there. or the dudes who naively think that its a great idea to be wife'ing up a chick who left her last husband for them... like they won't end up leaving him too. never ceases to amaze.

 

Not judging here. I've always heard that moving out is bad for you. At some point someone is going to say that you can't say shit about your house as you don't even live here. Plus, you loose control over the pajama parties!

I don't know where you get the strength and self discipline. I couldn't last through that kind of confrontation.

It took me 2 years to build my home and a lot of pain. When the issue was brought up I made clear up front that the only way I leave is in a body bag.

Good luck man. It's a shit sandwich that keeps on giving.

 

hypergamy.

 

When I was 16, after a hospital visit, my parents walked up to me and told me I had stage 4 Hodgkin's. Lungs, liver, kidneys, 13 different lymph nodes, month, 3, 6 max with out treatment I was told (worst question I ever asked, totally regret knowing that info). I got up, and started research on what I was dealing with. April will be 20 years healthy. Thats where I get the self discipline. Next, thats is all there is. I can go forward, or backward, and Im not doing that.

As far as moving out, its written in the separation agreement, run through the lawyer, no abandonment, etc, etc, all clean and clear.

 

Hell dude... looking down that barrel at 16 and coming out the other side is amazing. Good on you and best of luck with the current situation.

 

Does my zero turn count? I do about a six pack/acre.

 

when I first saw the wood thing, i thought the store texted you, didn't realize the new beau did. that's sooo f**king wrong, well a) that he would ask, but b) he has your number like you guys are amigos....well you may be in a few month when they realize it ain't fun no more

 

it doesn't appear that she's trying to do so based on him asking her ex-husband for help doing manual labor around his "new house", but maybe i'm reading that wrong? haha

 

Usually I regret seeing this thread bumped and feeling compelled to read the latest but this made me laugh, balls indeed, wow

 

Un-fucking-believable.