parents

im 44. im pretty sure ive gotten to the point in my life that i can without question say i really dont like my mother. shes just not a nice person. anyone else? or am i the weirdo?

i dated a woman for many many years who once said "you dont like everyone you meet walking down the street, youre not going to like everyone in your family either". i used to think it was cold, but its true.

 

Many different personalities out there, it'd be foolish to think they're all likeable and agreeable....even if they're family. You may love them, even if you don't like them.

 

I know plenty of grown, responsible cats who hate their parent(s) for a variety of reasons, ranging from childhood nonsense to adult 'judgemental' nonsense.

Perfectly normal depending on the circumstances.

 

My Dad, later in life was a cool ass mother (my mom) f@cker. My mom is a minature tyrant who wants things her way, will say what's on her mind and doesn't suffer fools. She missed her calling as a third world shithole dictator.

 

I have seen, most of the time, that when people hate one parent or another, they are exactly like them!

My wife cannot stand her mom (who happens to be awesome, in my opinion) but they are exactly alike!

 

My Mom was a saint. My Dad was the frickin' debbil. Wasn't sad when he went young.

-jim

 

You take after your mother then?

 

Pretty much.

 

My folks got divorced when I was ten. I lived with Dad. Sister went with Mom.

At 42 years old, I'm still a failure to her... I'm a great attorney, got a great wife, awesome kids, great life. But I'm not the golfing, country club member gomer she wants. I drink too mich, cuss too much and have too much fun.

About ten years ago I said fuck it. I'm beyond giving a shit.

 

Dits, you also raced motorcycles, sure that didn't please her either by the sound of it.

 

Correct. She came up for three races in my three years of racing.

I crashed in two and sucked in the other. She was bad juju.

 

I suppose I was lucky, mine were great.

 

Oh that's cold. You might not like your Dad or otherwise think he was the Devil...but being ok that's he's dead?


That explains a bunch.

 

Really, I got no complaints. They paid my way when they could, didn't when I was a classic f@ck up, didn't sugar coat it and I'm good to go.

 

My folks have their faults but they are my Parents and they have been wonderful Parents thus far.

So no.

 

Mine also,
both set really good examples, in every way, for their kids and grandkids.

 

Whatever my feelings about family members I don't put it out on the street.

 

Seriously? Are you really this much of a douchebag? Never mind that's a rhetorical question.

 

He tried to kill my saintly Mom.

Twice. Once by running her over, and once with a knife.

Not a lot of love left after that.

-jim

 

Best saying I've ever heard, "You can pick your friends but you can't pick your family."

My [immigrant] parents we very hard on us growing up, they had enough stress in their lives trying to keep a roof over our heads and food on the table. They certainly didn't live a lavish life, so I have enormous respect for pulling off what they did. However, since my pop's passing ('98) my mom slowly became more difficult to please. IMHO, my mom suffers from depression which probably peaked when my pop passed which has made our lives more difficult, especially when we convinced her to stop driving. She's 85yo this past month, she's hard of hearing, blind in one eye, recently had a portion of her colon cut out due to a cancerous tumor and she does nothing but pass time thinking about things to complain about. It is what it is.

To this day, we still have our customary sunday dinner at moms even though she barely cooks anything anymore.