Divorce help - God Damn Epidemic

Hey man. We have a winner!

 

My parent's have been together 40 years in April.
My older sister turns 40 in October.

 

My 40th was last September.

 

And your point is?

Seriously, congrats!

More seriously, for all of you long-time, still together guys and gals, how about sharing one nugget of advice with the rest of ? No long and windy diatribes. Just 20 words or less. Rules are made to be broken though.

e.g., Keep your mouth shut.

 

The biggest thing is finding the right one, don't be in a rush like Sean said. And if she's the right one you just know. If you have doubts, back out.

 

We do our own thing and don't worry about what the other is doing. She loves tennis, I love motorcycles. I don't care that she plays tennis all the time and she doesn't care that I have a garage full of motorcycles. That's a microcosm of the relationship but you get the gist...we don't smother each other. And yes...pick your battles.

 

Sounds like they have been
“ together “ longer than 40 years in April

 

You always have to remember that 2 don't become one, two become three, the individuals and the couple. You have to work on and support all three...and make sure your spouse understands that motorcycles with nothing better to do in the garage sometimes mate and surprise you with an unplanned motorcycle. Furniture, accessories and clothes do the same thing for your spouse.

 

Nope.

I bought mine a new vacuum cleaner awhile back and she didn't talk to me for three days.

Come to think of it, I might buy her another one.

 

This is a big thing which really comes down to trust. If you don't trust 100% trust each other it's gonna be rough.

 

Right. Lol. Married for 40.
Together for just a tad longer than 40.

 

My wife gave me an ironing board. I was not amused.

 

Did you use it as a print table

 

Clothes rack.

 

Thats why Im talking to my lawyer, I figured something like this would be the case. Thanks.

 

Didn't proof read, got one too many trust's in there.

 

trusts

 

24.5 years with my wife, 22.5 married. (Happily married for 18 years!)

What I put in bold is the joke to having a successful relationship. Marriage is just a legal definition. I really messed up our relationship and have spent the last 6-9 months working on fixing my errors. LOTS of hard work, but it's worth it. I have, and will continue to, recommend having a good marriage counselor available. Once you learn the triggers from previous relationships, and how your view of relationships has formed, then you can start to build a great relationship.

Here's my nugget for success:
Own your mistakes, and don't let resentment build. Address and resolve the solvable issues ASAP, and learn to accept the unsolvable issues.

 

I’m processing this. What do you consider unsolvable issues?