I'd rather have my boys back me up than a woman. When the shit goes down the only thing most women are going to be able to do is inflame the situation worse by inserting themselves into it.
Yeah, that was my life. I guess you can say I am out on this conversation because my back was very cold
My wife is pretty good to me, lets me do a lot, buy what I want, etc... It's also reciprocal though, guess that is what I think marriage should be, your opinion may vary (and I'm sure a lot will).
I think my biggest issue is the automatic assumption that I am in the wrong, before any facts and context is discovered or sorted out.
I have to admit.. Despite a few instances where the possibility of me ending up in a hospital trying to relive my 20's (playing rugby and motocross), my wife has been right there by my side. And equally so, I was right there when she decided to dive head first into her hobbies. I think in our age, we have just gotten better at communicating with one another and that has saved many an argument. The only thing I can say is I wish you all the best.
that's actually a rather large warning sign about the how your wife views you...as a child, without the respect normally given to a husband and partner, let alone as a man. the conventional viewpoint is all over this thread..."egg got the one good one"...that's all bullshit. it's up to you to be the man she can look up to and respect. if you're doing everything you need to do, she'll be as supportive as the day is long...if not you get the henpecking non-sense. it's that simple. she's merely responding to the inputs you're giving...don't blame the bike, blame the rider
Not always. Sometimes you can be the man and do everything right, and still be out of luck with some women.
it's as simple as if you're woman isn't looking up to you, she's looking down on you. take your pick. by all accounts you have a good relationship and partnership...that's a direct reflection on you. of course all that happy horseshit about 'it takes two...' blah blah. just don't discount the hardwired subconscious shit that's going on.
of course this is speaking in generalizations. there are always outliers...they don't change the reality.
Mine backs me up 100% especially in a crowd, its only later in private that she calls me a dumb ass Kidding, if she can't back me up on something she stays pretty quiet about it but for the most part she supports everything I do.
She's looking back at me. Until I bounce her noggin off the headboard, that is She looks up to me. And down on me. And she manages somehow to meet in the middle and look me in the eye. When you've got that, your relationship doesn't need to be a power play. Of course it is. It's also a direct reflection on her. What's missing from every post in this thread is a single word: respect.
Nothing was disrespectful. I'm saying that the missing "it" in all the posts is a discussion about the role respect plays in fostering a relationship.