Marriage... Ask the father ???

since you are in the south how bout..

"Sir, i realize that your daughter is promised to her cousin, but i was thinking it might be nice to break family tradition by taking marriage outside of the family."

 

haah :down: dont' think that would work

 

pretty sure mine woulda been, had i asked. 'cept it woulda been from her mother...evil, controlling, devil-incarnate, mormon bitch.

she had no problem agreeing with the dee-vorce tho'.

 

you must be further south than i thought....

how bout

"sir, i know you were saving her for yourself....but"

 

I did this a few months ago, and he pretty much saw it coming since it was the first time I called and asked to speak w/him without some other event going on.

I didn't ask permission as much as convey my intentions. "I love your daughter very much, and I plan on asking her to marry me in two weeks on our trip" He put his hand out and gave me a welcome to the family handshake, "assuming she says yes" he said.

Then we each drank a couple more beers while figuring out the best way to keep her little brother from spilling the beans that I was there that day.

 

My cousin was rejected by his g/f's dad.
Everything happens for a reason thought.

As far as asking the father. Yeah do it. It's the right thing to do and it will definately make the wife to be a happy lady!

Good luck!!!!!

 

My wife doesn't speak to her father (parents divorced). My life is simpler when I don't either. He did not attend or pay for the wedding.

 

I asked Papa G for the go ahead

 

sounds good... :up:

 

Ya I'd say ask....for a number of reasons...it's just the right thing to do.

 

You got to ask.....It's polite....

 

I agree with you:up:

 

Best thing I ever got from a father was "Listen, I know she's

cute and all, but run the other way as fast as you can, while you

can. She's as crazy as her mother."





I did.

 

I asked and got, "you should both make sure that this is what you want", so we waited to get married in May instead of August.

Got married, had the best 2 1/2 years of my life, then one day she decided she didn't want to be married anymore.

She took everything except my dog and my motorcycle.

So in the end, everything worked out ok.

 

You need to ask his permission, and you should also do it in person (if he lives close). Good luck!

 

He lives about 2.5 hours away.. is that close or long distance ?? I see them like 4 times a year.. I can make a special trip if needed though ..

 

Ask her first and then run it by her parents. You are not marrying her dad.

 

I would make the special trip...2.5 hours isn't far! It would really mean a lot to your fiance' too! My EX didn't ask my father...and I don't think he ever got the respect my brother-in-law did because HE ASKED...and he is still part of the family! :wow:

 

asking someone else to marry the woman you love implies that she doesn't have the wherewithal to make the decision on her own. I'd never do it. of course, I'd never promise to love someone for the rest of my life since there's no way anyone can ever know a thing like that.

 

post of the week. I don't care who ya are that's funny right there now...

I'd ask, but only after you ask her and feel her out to see if her dad wants to be asked or if he'll view that as you thinking she's just a possession, not a person, etc., etc.

but, ya, ask.